March 28, 2010

Diseng'aging'


Yonder, no net exists
to capture heart and eye.
Ideas alien appear
pulling minds apart

Moving away?
Not really...
a pushing away,
perhaps.

Who moves,
and who's the pusher?
Differently appear,
depending on the eye.
It could be you,
or maybe I;
regardless,
a separation
can't deny.

"Disengagement is an inescapable process in which many of the relationships between an aging person and other members of society are severed, and those remaining are altered in quality" [source: ­Cumming and Henry].
Fellow blogger "Smorg" has a very informative post on this subject.

4 comments:

starry said...

I love this part of the poem"Who moves,
and who's the pusher?
Differently appear,
depending on the eye.
It could be you,
or maybe I;
regardless,
a separation
can't deny.


This is so true, but what can we do to bridge that gap or aatleast to prevent this separation.Or is it a natural thing that happens .

EXSENO said...

Sad and very moving. Well done.
Certainly any eye opener I hope for some.

berenice said...

dear Id, your poem is very powerful, sad, yes, but beautiful too, when i first read it i thought it was more about a couple's separation, so i thought, well, separations are always proportionally inverse to the joy lived, and in the case of aging, i think is the same anyway... i am not sure if you saw this post by Smorg, about aging and not being able to be self-sufficient, sad thoughts but very realistic ones

http://smorgzone.blogspot.com/2010/03/nursing-medical-proxy-something-to-take.html

hope you have a good Easter Sunday and that we all can age beautifully surrounded by those who really care...

Id it is said...

berenice,
Thanks for directing me to Smorg's post! I put a link to it at the end of the poem.